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What motivates you to get up and try again after being rejected by somebody you have a crush on?
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Having asked that, I'm sure you already have a general idea of what type of responses you will get. Nevertheless...
This also depends on whether it was a mutual crush or not. (I'll assume it was because a one-way crush is never something worthy of lamentation.)
If I know that I gave my all in the effort to make the relationship succeed, there is no sense in trying to place blame...or mourn the what-if of what may have been, had the circumstances been different. If it didn't work out, it probably wasn't meant to. I don't place my destiny with fate in all situations, but there are some where applying it as such provides balance.
The other aspect of my character is most likely a fault and perversion of normal psyche. I don't tend to think of myself as desirable. Instead of feeling entirely dejected, I try to appreciate the fact that someone did like me at all. I don't expect someone to love me; I hope for it. I know that finding your partner (or soul mate) in life is only one aspect of existence. There are challenges and obstacles beyond partnership/marriage. In short, finding someone to spend your life with is not a requirement of living. Failing to find someone does not constitute justifiable self-punishment.
Learn from the experience and move on. Keeping your mind in the past only serves to dull your perception of the future and what it has to offer. If you find someone, good; if you don't, good. Be happy with the outcome. Emotions serve as a great learning tool, but can also pose as a hindrance if we solely rely on them (whether we realize we are or not).
With this said, I am not claiming to be void of emotions or saying that having a strong initial emotional response to a negative event is wrong. We are human, after all. There is a time and place for everything. Know when to sort things out and progress.
