It’s not surprising that at one time or another everyone has been either on the giving or receiving end of a silent treatment, otherwise known as the cold shoulder. When someone is upset they use the silent treatment in hopes of punishing the person who hurt them. It is sadistic of them but it’s their way of getting revenge for being hurt.
Now, what I mean by silent treatment is that I’m not talking about the “cooling off period”. The cooling off period is where one person is so angry or disgusted by the other person that they just cannot deal with the situation in that state and need time to calm down before they begin to speak to this person again. Cooling off is a good thing because it helps the person be in better control of themselves. It’ll prevent them from saying or doing something that they’ll regret.
But there is a big difference between taking some time to cool down and outright ignoring the existence of the other person. The silent treatment would be more along the lines of you doing something that pisses someone off, they clue you in on it (or not), and then they don’t speak to you, acknowledge you or even make eye contact with you for days.
It’s frustrating and immature when someone uses the silent treatment to punish or to break up in relationships. More so when it comes to dating. If someone is going to break up with their boyfriend or girlfriend it’s better that they be straight forward about it then drag it on. There’s no need to have the other suffer, wondering what they did to deserve it. Ending relationships with the silent treatments is cruel and leaves no room for closure. That’s like cutting someone’s limb off expecting it to stop bleeding on it own without the use of a tourniquet.
It doesn’t work that way. You have to soften the process or ease them into it and make sure that they understand why, especially if there’s no way to get pass whatever the issue is. It’s never easy but be a gentleman/lady and end the relationship in a decent way. Don’t make it messy and extremely painful. It doesn’t have to be like that.
 DamnBlackHeart · Thu Dec 27, 2012 @ 04:49pm · 0 Comments |
