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The Life and Mind of DamnBlackHeart
This is to help me stay actively writing. So expect to see rants, tips on writing, thoughts on subjects, me complaining of boredom, reviews, anime, movies, video games, conventions, tv shows and whatever life throws at me.
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NOTE: I kind of just realize at the end of my rant that I may have had Twilight in mind when writing some parts of this. I didn't mean too but that book annoys the hell out of me, especially the "romance" in it.
It totally gives out the wrong message and it's unbelievable!
Girls are suckers for it, even those that denied it. We all know you secretly enjoy reading a good romantic story or even watching a romantic movie. It's in our nature to crave those things in real life and sometimes depending on the story they give us hope that we'll have something just as amazing and special as the characters had one day.
However, we have to stick with reality! Nothing is like a fairytale or as simple as they make it seem or prefect either. There's always a process that dating or having a relationship go through and they won't always be the same way. For example, some people jump right into a sexual relationship. Sometimes depending on the person involve or the situation it might not be the best thing to do if someone was looking for something that has meaning or long term.
Why it wouldn't be good idea? Because it would be a one night stand. There wouldn't be a guarantee that the guy or woman would stay afterwards or want to have something more than sex. After all, they got what they wanted and they usually leave before the other wakes up to avoid the awkward confrontation. Either that, or having just a sexual relationships will contain nothing but that and won't leave much room for an emotionally relationship to evolve. Maybe one or both partners don't know how to express themselves emotionally but there's always a reason for people's actions and thoughts.
And sometimes writers forget that and don't think about the situation and how it affects the characters or how the characters actions or thoughts affect the situation. There's always a reason, a cause and affect and a reward or consequence when it comes to many things in life. So it's important to keep that concept in mind when writing. It helps a lot to make a story feel real and draw in readers without them questioning it's possibility and fakeness.
Before I forget, another thing that I find it highly unrealistic is when characters have a one night stand and not practice safe sex. It would be understandable if they were both drunk or tipsy that they don't remember to put the condom on or forget to warn the other about it. But there's no excuses if they are both sober, know what they're about to do and seem to "completely forget" about the risk of getting diseases and pregnancy. So, even if they're only characters in a book or a movie or whatnot, they are suppose to be as real as possible. It's how people can connect with them and become emotionally involve with them too.
Anyway, do you believe in love in first sight?
I honesty don't. No one can really love someone that they don't know at all. For all you know they could be a possessive weirdo that likes to watch you sleep and make decisions for you. However, it does happen. But it's not the undying adoration and forever wanting to be with the other person kind of love.
It's an attraction. The first thing that draws people together is their appearance. Sometimes it could be their actions too like if a guy just ran across the street to pull you away from getting hit by the car. The 'damsel in distress' would take an interest in her hero and would want to get to know him. That sounds a lot more realistic than claiming "he's the one" and that you "love him" already because it was "destiny" for him to save you.
Speaking of which, it's not "destiny" because if the guy is the type to run to save you than in the first place than I have no doubt that he would do the same to save someone else again if they were in a similar situation. Heck, if it wasn't you that was going to be run over, maybe it could have been the woman in front of you? Or the couple behind you?
Now that I think about it. Has anyone else notice that certain female main character, when it comes to their love interest always feel like they're the reason for their existences? That they are the center of their attention and that they ignore everyone else around them unless it relates to them? That they can't live without them when they only met them a short while ago?
That's so annoying. I know a few teenagers that felt this way when it came to their first boyfriend and even some young adults. They would cling to them, refusing to move on and believing that they are meant to be together. Heck, some of them planned to get married in a year after only 4 months of dating and that they wanted a baby. But they usually wise up months later, realizing that it's not the end of the world if they aren't together with them. That the world won't end if they slow things down. After all, they're young and they have school to worry about, and they should focus on themselves first since they still have a long way to go.
Anyway, love at first sight is mostly always one-sided. At least from my experience it was completely one-sided. Many people would try to act cool and hope to impressed the other. Eventually they'll grow out of it and realize that their supposedly "first at love sight" was nothing but a childish crush or a stalkish obsession.
I am ashamed of myself whenever I think about my love at first sight. But it's a stage in life that we all must go through in order to better understand ourselves and our emotions. Either way, there's no 'love' in love at first sight and it always annoys me when stories or movies automatically have characters all over each other before they even get a chance to know each other. That's lust, attraction, not love.
What also annoys me is when characters love each other too quickly. If I just met a guy and I'm not familiar with him or anyone else, I wouldn't be saying 'I love you' after three chapters, no matter how much time I spent with them. Hell, I wouldn't even if I we haven't even gone on a first date. Or if we did I wouldn't still say 'I love you' at least not until our relationship reach 6 months for me to really know if I feel that way and that I know for sure that he feels the same way too. And even than I wouldn't rush the relationship as soon as I said it. But that's just me...
Another problem that relates to this is OOC (Out Of Character), especially when romance is concern.
If a character has constantly been losing the woman he truly loved in his life, he wouldn't be so willing to pursuit a relationship with someone he's grown to care. Instead he would hide his feelings for her or even denied them, believing that she would be better off without him or better off not knowing he feels that way for her. He would think that he's doing the right thing by protecting her from himself because woman that were involve with him seem to always die.
So obliviously he wouldn't be quick to say 'I love you'. This character has issues and some authors forget about a character's past and how they would honesty react to falling in love with another character. It takes time for love to grow and it takes two to tangle in the relationship to overcome problems and learn how to adapt.
And trust me, problems will always come up in any relationship. Whether it's because of an ex's, family, friends, something they said, something that happen, something that didn't happen...etc.
 DamnBlackHeart · Sat Nov 20, 2010 @ 03:42am · 0 Comments |
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