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today's journal is about relationships...
I have been in a relationship for a year and five months. For some, a month is a long time... but for me, anything past 6 months minimum is atleast somewhat long. So, by about this time next month my boyfriend and myself will have been going out for a year and a half... three times my classification of a semi-long relationship.
Personally, i think that people who date on and off for menial reasons are very immature. There are going to be trials and tribulations in relationships. if one of these people get married, then the first argument that comes up will cause the person to either cheat or call for a divorce a week or a month after the wedding. These people need to learn to deal with problems that attack the relationship, whether the couple is married or just going out. This is how my boyfriend and i have managed to stay together for so long. We don't argue, like some couples do, we talk things out. Which is good for an optimistic and pessimistic with anger problems to do.
Another thing that really bugs me is when people who are together that argue constantly are still together. Sometimes, the arguing is good for the relationship, though sometimes it is harmful. Arguing would be good for the relationship if it is the way that attention is placed on the problem at hand. Arguing is bad for the relationship if the arguing places a negative feeling on either one or both of the people. For example, one of my best friends is in a relationship like the latter of the two.
Her boyfriend called her everyday when she stayed at my house for two weeks, and everyday he made her cry. Whenever he wanted to do something with her, she went with him, but whenever she wanted to do something with him, he either couldn't go, didn't want to go, or said he would and made some excuse to get out of going. From this, you might say "he is a bad boyfriend" that is true, but she isnt the best girlfriend either. She nags at him and whines at him plus other things...
That is a type of negative relationship that is harmful to both sides of the relationship.
what i honestly think people who are looking for a relationship or are in a relationship should learn to work through problems. if arguing is what is needed to acknowledge problems, then go right ahead, just know that sometimes it can lead to more problems. talking, in my opinion, is the best way to deal with problems simply because everything can come out without too much yelling, and how you feel about something will come out truthfully. plus, it is the easiest way to deal with poblems that dont even occur in relationships... smile
 roninfan · Sun May 11, 2008 @ 10:22pm · 0 Comments |
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