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Most people are aware of the "New Year's Resolution" trend. If you aren't, it's where you make a commitment to do something different next year in hopes of being better. I've tossed this idea aside long ago, as they're pointless. No one actually sticks to those things and there's a couple of reasons why.

First, people don't just change because they say they will. This is why many people have fallouts. It's harder to change than just saying it. It takes real work and mindfulness that many don't have. Hell, many people don't know who they are right now, and if you think that's cynical, do you?

Second, no one can see the future. Often I find myself saying I'm going to change something, and then immediately afterward, something happens that contradicts what I said I would do. Even though I try to work through it and commit to myself, I find that it's very difficult when you just want peace.

But that's another thing: Peace doesn't come easy. Not even running and hiding will bring you peace. It's like being in a bunker during a nuclear attack. You may have everything you need in there to keep you alive, but eventually resources will run out, and you'll have to step back out into the nuclear wasteland you sought to protect yourself from. The truth of the matter is, peace also takes work.

Lastly, sometimes you haven't been through enough to know how to change in the first place. I'll be 27 next year, and I have found that every year in my 20s thus far has been a chapter that I have learned from. And trust me, the learning process was not easy by far. 2018 has taught me to stop letting people walk all over me, even if it means raising hell.

So that's exactly what I shall do: stop being a pushover. Show my a** a lil bit to keep those who wish to just use me away. I'm done with being everyone's bank and/or doormat. I'm done with smiling in peoples' faces that I don't like. I mean, I'll tolerate if I absolutely have to, but if I don't, I won't. I know many people who have this same issue; being too nice. My advice to you is be patient, not with others, but yourself. Eventually someone will show you how much you are really worth, but how little they value your relationship to them. Trust me. From there, you will know what to do.